Anniversary

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hello friends:)

D and i celebrated our anniversary earlier this month and i thought i'd share abit on that here:)

it was a simple affair, really.

we had a nice lunch at arbite, desserts at a korean place and then to henderson's waves to catch the sunset.

i talked abit about these awesome lava cakes on my snapchat and insta! (both @etherealpeonies)

its really the best lava cake i've ever had.

D and i were so so happy while eating this being the foodies we are hahahha 

the white one is misugaru (korean rice tea flavour) while the green one is matcha.

i actually really liked both but the matcha one was slightly better:)

it was a rather long journey to hendersons wave because its in such an ulu location!
from vivo we had to take a bus and then walk a fair bit uphill.
arrived there just in time to catch the last bit of sunset and light :)

we took these with a tripod in case you were wondering!

since its our anniversary, must take some pictures for remembrance right?:)

esp since we climbed a long flight of stairs to reach this beautiful place!!

 super candid shot hahaha

D set it on 3 seconds timer and we were both looking so unprepared/silly when the camera clicked hahah

 there, much better hehe

 chasing sunsets.

i really like my hair colour here!
the silvery grey accents are beautiful:)
can't wait to do up the blogpost for headlines this month and show you guys more photos!

we have some glam shots but most of the time this is what we look like!!

 look at that glorious sunset :')

 us in our natural state hehe

 we look so goon here hahahha

i love anoying daniel hahaha

 beautiful beautiful evening :')

we were supposed to have dinner at poulet, but we were still really stuffed from the yummy lunch and desserts so we just bought yong tau foo and "dabao" home so that we can have a healthy dinner while watching running man!
much chillax hahah, no fancy candlelight dinner but it was a very nice, comfortable meal:)
back at home we tried to surprise each other with our handmade anniversary cards but failed haha!

cos we knew we each would have prepared something:)

 doesn't this sticker look exactly like the husky D got me from ikea?

i was so excited when i saw it in the stationery shop hahahah #cheapthrills

 <3 :')

So, with our very first one year mark, i thought it'd be nice to do a little "review of our year" kinda post here, to document our journey of love and growth. 


I guess its safe to say that the past one year has been the best year of my life thus far. Other than basking in the love from family and close friends, i got to experience love from my very first significant other.





I've already talked about how we met and stuff here, but of course that was only the start of a very incredible journey.




It has only been a year but we've reached many memorable milestones together and learnt so so much, about each other, ourselves, and most importantly, how to love.


Alot has happened but i remember every milestone and the feelings that went with it vividly. 


A year back when we were walking along the old train tracks, it felt like a scene out of the movie "na xie nian/ apple of my eye".

That day i finally understood what the term butterflies in my tummy meant when i felt his warm hands interweaving with mine for the very first time. 


Or when we had our very first official date along the river near esplanade.

We were still rather awkward and shy then.

But it was a breezy, chilly night, and I felt safe when he held me close protectively. 





Fast forward, we've gone past the awkwardness and its all a state of familiarity now.

Going back to our favourite udon place at novena once a month, or having supper at our favourite clementi prata place, or the sleepovers where we watch our weekly ep of running man.





I guess i could say its finding love in familiarity.


I feel truly loved when he plants a kiss on my forehead and strokes my hair before we sleep.


 I learnt to find joy in simple things when he cooks at home for me while i shower after we had a tiring day out. 


I started to see how much i meant to him when i try to cook for him, the pickiest eater i know, and it turns out overly salty but he eats it very happily anyway and tells me he loves my cooking (lol!).


 I started to see love in the little things, like when he uses his palm to cover that little patch of sunlight on my knees when it shines through the bus, because he knows i don't like being tanned.


 It feels surreal when he includes me in all his future, telling me that we should buy a house in bukit timah next time after he earns big bucks, or when we have a daughter how he's gonna interrogate all her future boyfriends. 

I know its all too early to tell, but it shows that he's extremely serious about us, in a very comforting way.


At the start of the year we decided to make sacrifices for each other in a good way.


 His resolution for me this year being a biweekly exercise regime because he knows exercise will help me with my cholesterol problem.


 My resolution for him being limiting of fast food to once every fortnight cos i know how bad it is for him. 


We both don't like those changes set respectively, but our motivation for keeping to it lies in the fact that if we keep to our side of the promise, it'll lead to better health for the other party.


 I found it so amusing when he asked me incredulously "Don't all boyfriends like their girlfriends in their most natural state?" and proceeded to tell me that he likes me the most when i'm at home in slouchy pjs, bare faced, with my annoying specs which slides off my nose every few minutes. 


Its also such an incredulous feeling to know someone so well, like the back of your hand. 


Every freckle, every mole, every laugh line, how his eyes form a half crescent every time i say something that unexpectedly, he finds so funny. 


How we imitate each other's reactions to certain things and its almost a hundred percent similar. 


Or when the instant i feel a sudden jolt in his feet i know it means he has accidentally fallen asleep. 





Or when he knows that when i give him that certain look it means i want him to help me take my otd pictures (haha). 


Of course i wont say that our relationship is perfect.


 I wont paint a perfect picture because no relationship is perfect. 


No matter how similar two beings may be, there will still be differences, no matter how small, because simply no two individuals are exactly the same. 





 I guess what makes or breaks a relationship lies in how significant those differences are.

Its important to have similar life values cos at the end of the day those values are the ones that inherently make us who we are and guides us in important, life changing decisions.





Its tough to sustain a relationship simple because it takes so much to keep it going, and efforts has to be from both parties.




Its cliche to say that "life is full of ups and downs", but if you think about it it makes so much sense.


 The downs in life gives meaning to the ups. 


Without the downs, there won't be the creation of hope, such a powerful emotion that makes us uniquely human. 


Without the downs, we won't learn how to cherish, because if everything is perfect we'll start to take things for granted that it was always ours to begin with.




And so, I'd have to say, we have our downs too. We make mistakes too.


There are times i'm being super temperamental and moody or pms-ing and feel like lashing out at everyone (including him) over nothing or miniscule things. 


There are times when he upsets me with insensitivity or the way he handled things. 


From that i learnt that heartache is a very real thing and he learnt that its the worst feeling in the world to hurt someone you love albeit unintentionally. 


But im proud to say that we do not fight, we do not say things out of anger, we do not say things that are untrue or hurtful. 


We talk it out calmly, listen to each other's perhaps differing point of view, understand the conflict from the other's perspective. 


In the process, there may be tears, it may be emotional.



But it always ends with a tight embrace, and at that moment all negative feelings dissipate.

It feels so silly because at the end of the day, such misunderstandings and conflicts out of stubborn headedness are infinitely minute as compared to how great a love can be.


And so at the end of it all, we love deeper and even harder. 


 Its not easy to find someone who he loves you more than you love him. 

And so, i hope we all learn to love through the seasons. 



May everyone find their own kind of love soon.

Till the next;

xoxo